Another smile Story

Well, in 2010 I had a very rough patch. I would fall ill frequently and so much so that doctors would tell me 'get her Hospitalized'. Imagine!!! I go to a doc with fever and pain in the abdomen and he is like get her in. Well I panicked, so did KM. We called mom to fly over from Kolkata, we being in Bangalore n all. She flew in, in a hurry, friends booked ticket as I lay in a dim hospital bed with my veins sipping fluid.
Now the hospital allowed a attendant to stay alongside you. So KM said he can stay. Both my mom and KM are similar in one way. During the day both of them are non-believers in Ghosts. At night they just become a little more open minded. So both of them did not want to go home alone and stay in an empty flat. Well, KM being my husband n all was more than eager to stay by the side of his ailing wife. Nothing to do with care and love but more for the sake of not being left alone. Now my poor mom had no choice but to go back. So we tried arranging something for her.
We thought why not call our maid over so that she can stay the night and mom will not feel alone. So KM was given this simple task of talking to her. Now listen to the conversation. KM dials her, and tells 'Listen tonight are you free? Well you see my wife is not at home, can you come over? You can stay the night and then tomorrow morning go off.'
I am flabbergasted at what's coming out of his mouth and have gone mum with just thinking of the implications in my head. The maid would have said some non-confirming things from the other side. My brave husband, nonchalant continues, 'No No Don't worry she(wife) is at the hospital and there is no chance she is coming back tonight. So you can come and stay'.
By this time I get my senses back and literally start screaming to my mom 'Take the phone from his hand, just take the damn thing before he is able to say another word'.
Finally, I take the phone and explain the situation to her, saying my mom is the one who would be staying at home and BOTH me and my husband are at the hospital for the night. But, by then the damage has already been done and she thinks of us as a freak family!!!
Of course she did not agree to stay despite pleading and offering to pay money. We just had to make some other arrangements for mom.
Well, with the best of intentions, sometimes there are just funny stories to be told later :)

Selfless Love

Ask a person what is that one selfless act of love that he has done in his life and judge him by his reply.

Yes, but this does require that you yourself are like that and are into selfless love. As per my experience most human beings on earth are not. Does not matter what your current designation in life is. Whether you are just somebody's child or a new-born's mom or mom of a teenager or a grand mom. And equally for the men. I have come to realize there are some of us for whom specific targets and thinking do not matter. These people do not love you because you fulfilled some tick mark in their sheet of requirements. They love you mostly because they believe in the idea of love and also crave love. They would stand by you, make you comfortable and you would become the center of their world. Does not matter if they have time, or something else is conflicting, or there is something lacking in you. They love the whole of you and in turn make you Whole. And trust me they are the rarest to find. So you are damn lucky if you have found one. Hold on tight and keep him/her safe.

Then there are the other lot and yes, a whole lot of them out there. Again gender irrespective. So they have led their lives believing that Things and Stuff and Status are far more important than anything living or dead on this world. Oh! you knew immediately a bunch of people in your head who satisfy this category, didn’t you?? Well, yes they are the more common phenomenon and are the concept of a common man/woman in today's world. They also fall in love(so called) marry, have families and live a fulfilled life. For them love is more like convenience. Well will the other person be able to fulfill so and so requirement of his/her. And these are as varied from earning money to looking after parents to being sharp and intelligent to have stimulating conversations. And once in a long term relationship with them if both the partners are like that, then it’s fine. Else you start to notice that the relationship deteriorates within a span of 1 - 2 years. Again, you have to understand 75% of the population being like this chances are you are in a relationship in which both of you survive on thinking about the benefit of it. In which case it is a perfect relation and nothing to lose.

The problem happens when one of the partner's is not the kinds who entered into the relation with a checklist and the question 'What is in it for me?' Well, maybe it’s a very common phenomenon in the current world to check every aspect of your being with the question 'What's in it for me?' I would still like to believe that we still have enough and more people living who do not lead their lives based on this Mantra!!!

 And this is where I say ask the person for his one selfless act of love . Or at least when you describe such a thing check if they are able to relate and empathize with it. Then you know that their sole purpose on earth is not to have the scale tilt to their side for the answer of ‘What’s in it for me?’

And well if you are on the receiving end then Good Luck!